widowing™.


the everyday work of learning how to live in a world that no longer has your person in it.


their wife.

their husband.

their person.

and then one day,

you're introducing yourself

differently.

making decisions

alone.

learning

how many ordinary parts of life

quietly belonged

to the two of you.

the hardest part

wasn't only losing them.

it was discovering

how often

ordinary life

still expected them

to be there.

one day

you’re still...

widowing™.

when one word keeps coming out plural.


i still say we.

when ordinary life still expects there to be two of you.


when all that freedom doesn't feel like freedom.

untethered.