world’s shittiest club.
widowing™.
the everyday work
of learning how to live
in a world
that no longer
has your person in it.
nobody signs up for this one.
there's no orientation.
no welcome packet.
just a life you didn't choose
this is for the people already in it.
wid·ow·ing | verb
choose how you carry it
sweatshirt
a quiet way to carry the words.
world's shittiest club.
best i can.
nobody signs up for this one.
there's no orientation. no welcome packet. just a life you didn't choose and the work of learning how to live in a world that no longer has your person in it.
this is for the people already in it.
what this is
a sweatshirt that doesn't try to fix anything.
the front says best i can.
the inside sleeve carries a word for what you're living through:
widowing.
learning to live in a world without your person.
not advice.
not an affirmation.
recognition you can carry.
the words
front: best i can.
inner neck label: world's shittiest club.
inside sleeve:
widowing.
wid·ow·ing | verb
learning to live in a world without your person.
the sweatshirt
• Gildan® 18000 Heavy Blend crewneck sweatshirt
• 50% cotton / 50% polyester
• soft fleece interior
• classic unisex fit
• ribbed crewneck, cuffs, and waistband
• front chest print
• inside forearm sleeve print
• custom inner neck label
• made to order
• free shipping
about best i can.
everything we create begins by giving language to the experiences that leave people feeling alone.
because there will always be more experiences that deserve words.
the format changes.
the mission never does.
we'll be here.
world's shittiest club.
best i can.
you still say we.
you hear it after you've said it.
you know they're gone.
you didn't forget.
we was simply the word that belonged in the sentence.
because for so long, there was a we.
and sometimes there still is.
this is for the people still saying it.
what this is
a sweatshirt that doesn't try to fix anything.
the front says best i can.
the inside sleeve carries the words:
i still say we.
not because you forgot.
because some parts of a life built as two don't become singular just because one person is gone.
not advice.
not an affirmation.
recognition you can carry.
the words
front: best i can.
inner neck label: world's shittiest club.
inside sleeve: i still say we.
the sweatshirt
• Gildan® 18000 Heavy Blend crewneck sweatshirt
• 50% cotton / 50% polyester
• soft fleece interior
• classic unisex fit
• ribbed crewneck, cuffs, and waistband
• front chest print
• inside forearm sleeve print
• custom inner neck label
• made to order
• free shipping
about best i can.
everything we create begins by giving language to the experiences that leave people feeling alone.
because there will always be more experiences that deserve words.
the format changes.
the mission never does.
we'll be here.
mug
for mornings that begin before you are ready.
world's shittiest club.
widowing.
nobody signs up for this one.
there's no orientation. no welcome packet. just a life you didn't choose and the work of learning how to live in a world that no longer has your person in it.
this is for the people already in it.
what this is
a mug that doesn't try to make anything better.
it carries a word for what you're living through:
widowing.
learning to live in a world without your person.
not advice.
not an affirmation.
recognition in an ordinary part of the day.
the words
front: widowing.
wid·ow·ing | verb
learning to live in a world without your person.
back: world's shittiest club.
the mug
• 11 oz. ceramic mug
• glossy finish
• available in black or white
• microwave safe
• dishwasher safe
• lead & BPA free
• printed to order
• printed in the USA
• free shipping in the U.S.
about best i can.
everything we create begins by giving language to the experiences that leave people feeling alone.
because there will always be more experiences that deserve words.
the format changes.
the mission never does.
we'll be here.
world's shittiest club.
widowing.
nobody signs up for this one.
there's no orientation. no welcome packet. just a life you didn't choose and the work of learning how to live in a world that no longer has your person in it.
this is for the people already in it.
what this is
a mug that doesn't try to make anything better.
it carries a word for what you're living through:
widowing.
learning to live in a world without your person.
not advice.
not an affirmation.
recognition in an ordinary part of the day.
the words
front: widowing.
wid·ow·ing | verb
learning to live in a world without your person.
back: world's shittiest club.
the mug
• 11 oz. ceramic mug
• glossy finish
• available in white or black
• microwave safe
• dishwasher safe
• lead & BPA free
• printed to order
• printed in the USA
• free shipping in the U.S.
about best i can.
everything we create begins by giving language to the experiences that leave people feeling alone.
because there will always be more experiences that deserve words.
the format changes.
the mission never does.
we'll be here.
the words stay the same.
how you carry them is up to you.
a quiet way to carry the words.
you still say we.
without thinking about it.
because for so long,
there was a we.
and sometimes
there still is.
this ceramic mug is part of the widowing. collection.
also available in white
about best i can.
everything we create begins by giving language to the experiences that leave people feeling alone.
because there will always be more experiences that deserve words.
the format changes.
the mission never does.
we'll be here.
the words stay the same.
how you carry them is up to you.
a quiet way to carry the words.
you still say we.
without thinking about it.
because for so long,
there was a we.
and sometimes
there still is.
this ceramic mug is part of the widowing. collection.
also available in black
about best i can.
everything we create begins by giving language to the experiences that leave people feeling alone.
because there will always be more experiences that deserve words.
the format changes.
the mission never does.
we'll be here.
notebook
a place to keep the words nearby.
world's shittiest club. widowing. nobody signs up for this one. there's no orientation. no welcome packet. just a life you didn't choose and the work of learning how to live in a world that no longer has your person in it. this is for the people already in it. an unstructured grief notebook for widowing. no prompts. no exercises. no stages of grief. no instructions for what belongs here. just lined pages and somewhere for whatever comes with learning to live in a world without your person. the things you remember. the things you miss. the things that piss you off. the things nobody else understands. the ordinary things that aren't ordinary anymore. whatever needs somewhere to go. the words
front: widowing
wid·ow·ing | verb learning to live in a world without your person.
spine: world's shittiest club.
back: bestican.org
the notebook
• 5.7 × 8.1 in. hardcover notebook
• matte laminated cover
• 150 pages / 75 sheets
• lined pages
• perforated pages
• wraparound printed cover
• made to order
• free shipping in the U.S.
the pages 150 lined, perforated pages. keep them here. or take one with you. there's no system to keep up with. nothing to complete.
about best i can.
everything we create begins by giving language to the experiences that leave people feeling alone.
because there will always be more experiences that deserve words.
the format changes.
the mission never does.
we'll be here.
i still have things to tell you. you used to tell them everything. the important things. the stupid things. what happened today. what pissed you off. what made you laugh. the thing only they would understand. then they died. and somehow the things you want to tell them didn't.
what this is
an unstructured grief notebook for a conversation that didn't stop just because your person died.
no letter prompts.
no grief exercises.
no questions to answer.
no instructions for what you're supposed to say.
just lined pages.
for whatever you still have to tell them.
the words
front: i still have things to tell you.
spine: world's shittiest club
the notebook
• 5.7 × 8.1 in. hardcover notebook
• matte laminated cover
• 150 pages / 75 sheets
• lined pages
• perforated pages
• wraparound printed cover
• made to order
• free shipping in the U.S.
the pages 150 lined, perforated pages. keep them here. or take one with you.
there's no system to keep up with.
nothing to complete.
about best i can.
everything we create begins by giving language to the experiences that leave people feeling alone.
because there will always be more experiences that deserve words.
the format changes.
the mission never does.
we'll be here.
i still say we.
the math is simple.
one person left.
the language isn't.
you still say “we” without thinking about it.
because for so long, there was a we.
and sometimes there still is.
what this is
an unstructured grief notebook that doesn't ask you to do anything.
no prompts.
no exercises.
no instructions for what belongs here.
just lined pages and the words:
i still say we.
not advice.
not an affirmation.
a place for whatever needs somewhere to go.
the words
front: i still say we.
spine: best i can.
back: world's shittiest club
the notebook
• 5.7 × 8.1 in. hardcover notebook
• matte laminated cover
• 150 pages / 75 sheets
• lined pages
• perforated pages
• wraparound printed cover
• made to order
• free shipping in the U.S.
the pages
150 lined, perforated pages.
keep them here. or take one with you.
there's no system to keep up with.
nothing to complete.
about best i can.
everything we create begins by giving language to the experiences that leave people feeling alone.
because there will always be more experiences that deserve words.
the format changes.
the mission never does.
we'll be here.
widow shit to do.
your person died.
and somehow that came with a to-do list.
phone calls.
paperwork.
accounts.
forms.
people who need something from you.
things that apparently still have deadlines.
all while you're trying to understand what just happened to your life.
what this is
an unstructured widow notebook for the shit that still needs doing.
not a planner.
no prompts.
no checklists.
no grief exercises.
no system you're supposed to keep up with.
just lined pages for whatever needs to make it out of your head and onto paper.
the words
front: widow shit to do.
spine: best i can.
back: world's shittiest club.
the notebook
• 5.7 × 8.1 in. hardcover notebook
• matte laminated cover
• 150 pages / 75 sheets
• lined pages
• perforated pages
• wraparound printed cover
• made to order
• free shipping in the U.S.
the pages
150 lined, perforated pages.
keep them here. or take one with you.
there's no system to keep up with.
nothing to complete.
about best i can.
everything we create begins by giving language to the experiences that leave people feeling alone.
because there will always be more experiences that deserve words.
the format changes.
the mission never does.
we'll be here.
things i don't want to forget.
not the big things.
you know the big things.
the smaller ones.
the way they said something.
the thing they always ordered.
the stupid joke.
the sound of their laugh.
the details that once seemed too ordinary to need remembering.
until there was only one of you left to remember them.
what this is
an unstructured grief notebook for the things you don't want time to take with it.
no memory prompts.
no exercises.
no questions about favorite vacations or happiest moments.
no instructions for what is worth remembering.
just lined pages.
because you know what you don't want to forget.
the words
front: things i don't want to forget.
spine: best i can.
back: world's shittiest club.
the notebook
• 5.7 × 8.1 in. hardcover notebook
• matte laminated cover
• 150 pages / 75 sheets
• lined pages
• perforated pages
• wraparound printed cover
• made to order
• free shipping in the U.S.
the pages
150 lined, perforated pages.
keep them here. or take one with you.
there's no system to keep up with.
nothing to complete.
about best i can.
everything we create begins by giving language to the experiences that leave people feeling alone.
because there will always be more experiences that deserve words.
the format changes.
the mission never does.
we'll be here.