jane doe collection.
jane doe.
we learned how not to become her.
watch your drink.
don't walk alone.
share your location.
text me when you get home.
check the backseat.
stay together.
don't make him angry.
be aware of your surroundings.
we learned the rules
so early
they stopped feeling
like rules.
they became things
women just knew.
things we reminded
each other to do.
things we taught
the girls coming after us.
all in the name
of keeping women safe.
we learned
how not to become her.
maybe the question
was never what else
women needed to learn.
maybe the question is
what are we teaching men?
choose how you carry it
jane doe is the name we give a woman so she can survive telling us what happened.
she isn't a stranger. she's someone's roommate. someone's sister. someone's daughter. the friend who said "text me when you're home."
this shirt says what so many of us already know. it could have been any of us. and too often, the people who were supposed to protect her protected something else.
where this shirt goes beyond you.
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the words.
front: jane doe could be any of us.
back:
believe her.
protect her.
stop protecting the system.
this soft everyday t-shirt is part of the best i can. jane doe collection.
about best i can.
some words don't leave you.
they become part of how you see yourself.
how you move through the world.
then they become something you carry with you.
because there will always be more experiences that deserve words.
everything we create begins by giving language to the experiences that leave people feeling alone.
the format changes.
the mission never does.
we'll be here.
not all men. but every woman learned the list.
the words.
front: every rule we were handed, spiraling in toward the center: what i was taught.
back: what are we teaching men?
text me when you get home. never set your drink down. watch the bartender pour it. go to the bathroom together. don't walk alone at night. hold your keys between your fingers. park under a light. check the backseat. lock the doors as soon as you get in. share your location. no headphones when you run. don't run after dark. don't drink too much. say you have a boyfriend. wear a fake ring. take your own car. screenshot the license plate. pretend you're on the phone. walk like you know where you're going. be polite. don't make him angry. don't leave with someone you just met. never leave a friend behind. carry pepper spray. trust your gut.
most of us could keep going. we learned these before we learned to drive. no one sat us down. we just knew.
ask a room of men what they do every day to keep from being assaulted, and the answer is usually nothing. ask a room of women and the list never ends.
this shirt is that list. and the question on the back is the one we keep forgetting to ask.
where this shirt goes beyond you.
best i can. gives 10% of every sale to me too. International, working toward a world free from sexual violence.
about best i can.
some words don't leave you.
they become part of how you see yourself.
how you move through the world.
then they become something you carry with you.
because there will always be more experiences that deserve words.
everything we create begins by giving language to the experiences that leave people feeling alone.
the format changes.
the mission never does.
we'll be here.
at least when the bear attacks, you believe us.
when women were asked whether they'd rather be alone in the woods with a man or a bear, so many of us chose the bear. and the world wanted to know why.
this is one of the reasons.
no one asks the woman who survived a bear what she was wearing. no one asks how much she'd had to drink, or why she went into the woods, or why she didn't scream louder. no one calls the bear a good guy who made one mistake. no one worries about the bear's future.
they just believe her.
this shirt is for every woman who has ever had to prove it.
where this shirt goes beyond you.
best i can. gives 10% of every sale to me too. International, working toward a world free from sexual violence.
metoomvmt.org
about best i can.
some words don't leave you.
they become part of how you see yourself.
how you move through the world.
then they become something you carry with you.
because there will always be more experiences that deserve words.
everything we create begins by giving language to the experiences that leave people feeling alone.
the format changes.
the mission never does.
we'll be here.
every woman you know has done the math.
the walk to the car. the drink she didn't set down. the friend of a friend she didn't leave alone with.
she's been sorting men into safe and not safe since she was a girl. most of the time, quietly. most of the time, you'd never know.
she shouldn't have to.
this shirt doesn't ask men to rescue anyone. it asks them to be someone she never has to wonder about. and to be the one who says something when another man isn't.
for the men who already are. and for the women who want them to say it out loud.
where this shirt goes beyond you.
best i can. gives 10% of every sale to me too. International, working toward a world free from sexual violence.
metoomvmt.org
about best i can.
some words don't leave you.
they become part of how you see yourself.
how you move through the world.
then they become something you carry with you.
because there will always be more experiences that deserve words.
everything we create begins by giving language to the experiences that leave people feeling alone.
the format changes.
the mission never does.
we'll be here.
not all men.
we've heard it every time a woman tries to say what happened.
the words.
front: NOT ALL MEN?
back: JANE DOE / 57
jane doe. the name we give her so she can survive telling us.
the number of people reported to be in the group chat that night.
it was never all men. it only ever takes the ones who do it, and the ones who stay quiet.
wear it. let them ask.
where this shirt goes beyond you.
best i can. gives 10% of every sale to me too. International, working toward a world free from sexual violence.
about best i can.
some words don't leave you.
they become part of how you see yourself.
how you move through the world.
then they become something you carry with you.
because there will always be more experiences that deserve words.
everything we create begins by giving language to the experiences that leave people feeling alone.
the format changes.
the mission never does.
we'll be here.